Every day we encounter people who we will (most likely) never see again. The girl you sit next to on the subway and comment about the crazy drunkard two seats away, the deep; blue-eyed coffee shop guy that you exchange plenty of conversation with, but somehow manage to forget the digits. There's people who are less fleeting; the friend you had in elementary school who suddenly drifted apart from you when middle or high school approached, the next door neighbor who moved and promised to write you every day, every month, every year, every now and then. Often times, we see these moments of escape as a sort of regret. "Would that guy from the coffee shop REALLY have called me back?" Sometimes it is just a matter of growing up and growing apart.
But what happens when you become so comfortable seeing not one, not two, not even three, but hundreds of people every day for years, and the realization hits that they have disappeared into your memory? It's something every person must go through at the time of graduation; whether it be from high school or college. It's also the realization that I came to today.
Some people may remember a post I made a few months ago about how I would see people walking by whom I thought I recognized, only to remember that I am in a city hundreds of miles away from home. While experiencing this same moment, it occurred to me that, with time, Frederick itself will become a part of my permanent past. With time, my parents will move away from 5351 Ivywood Drive. With time, I will move into an apartment in Chicago. With time, I will concentrate more and more on saving money for vacations and not journeys home. I will see my parents on Christmas, Thanksgiving, maybe for an extended Memorial Day weekend. With time, my priority will shift from my parents, brother, and friends to my husband, kids, career, and the family pooch. With time, I may come back into Frederick attend weddings, reunions, and even funerals. And with time, I will be able to recall the names of 5% of my graduating class, not 75%.
What I am explaining is the phenomenon that some people commonly refer to as "growing up". And it may seem completely crazy, but it doesn't seem so scary anymore. And would you believe it? Nobody even told me to say that.